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date: '2026-04-26'
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title: noticing and surviving manipulation in and after relationships.
description: abuse isn't always physical
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Unreliable Narrator
Flips between apologetic to bursting when doesn’t get what they want
admits issue then plays victim - activates your fawn or saviour complex
Lies in public and to everyone you are not in circle of so their image is clean but admits everything in private
Removes information and twists narrative, deletes and hides away when caught